Living VALUE


Thoughtfulness

The best gift you can give yourself and others is that of thoughtfulness. Thoughtfulness by definition is careful thought and having the well being of others in mind or at heart. Thoughtfulness has also to do with how we react to what others think, do or say about or to us.

When you are thoughtful toward another person, two things immediately happen. First, you feel good about yourself, and secondly, you give the othe person done for thought. Possibly you encourage them to be thoughtful in their lives and relationships too. You hardly break a sweat doing it, but it means a whole lot to the other person.

Thoughtfulness can be learned. How much time of energy does it take to let a driver merge in front of you in traffic, or the expectant lady have the seat or place in front of you in the bank. Please and thank youare other ways to show thoughtfulness.

Every human being thinks of himself or herself as being thoughtful. The famous quote by French Philosopher, Rene Descartes,I think, therefore I amdoes not mean every human being acts in a thoughtful manner. Buddhistscall it mindfulness, and they insist that being mindful creates a positive impact. If you don’t believe it, stop and think how bad you feel when have not acted thoughtfully toward another person either in thought, deeds or words.

Some cases of lacking thoughtfulness, abusive or to the extreme, committing murder with no compunction, and so on. Though this actions are borne out of thought, they can hardly be described as acts of thoughtfulness. In some of us, thoughtfulness maybe a once in a while affair, like when someone decides to do a good deed for the day. For others, it is a way of life. The world would be a much nicer place if we adopted thoughtfulness as a way of life

Reflections

It (shouldn’t) take a crisis to look at our own thoughtfulness differently. It takes determination to think about our impact to others – the question now is, are you willing to be present in every moment in your life. You’ll see you can handle situations with more love and compassion than you ever have done before – just by settling into your mind with a sense of purpose, not only your reaction.

  1. Mary D’Alba – American spiritual trouble-shooter

    The chief misery of the decline of the faculties, and a main cause of the irritability that often goes with it, is evidently the isolation, the lack of customary appreciation and influence, which only the most rare tact and thoughtfulness on the part of others can alleviate.

  2. Charles Horton Cooley – American sociologist (1864-1929)

    I have wept in the night, for the shortness of sight, that to somebody’s need made blind; but I never have yet, felt a tinge of regret, for being a little too thoughtful.

  3. Albert Schweitzer – German theologian and musician(1875 – 1965)

    Never doubt that a group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world, indeed, it’s the only thing that ever does.

  4. Anonymous

    Constant thoughtfulness can accomplish much. As the sun melts, thoughtfulness causes misunderstandings, mistrust and hostility to evaporate.

  5. Anonymous

    The little unremembered acts of thoughtfulness and love are the best parts of a person’s life.

  6. Margaret Mead – American anthropologist(1901-1978)

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